Constant bickering is taking over your relationship.
You can’t find common ground with your partner about anything.
You both harbor resentment that won’t let you move forward.
Still holding your partner responsible for the lack of support and growing apart from you. Constantly feeling like you are the one that gives more in the relationship and feeling underappreciated has become an everyday struggle.
Still have that memory when your spouse lied to you and that promise that wasn’t kept. You’re tired of hearing, “I’m sorry.” You need to see action.
Stuck in a place where you’re constantly under attack and are in “defense mode” all the time.
There is no intimacy, and you feel your partner is far away from you.
Separation is the most common topic of conversation, and you’re tired of the toxic cycle. Sometimes, it feels like you don’t even know each other… but you’re not ready to give up just yet.
This isn’t the relationship you wanted.
That resentment could become hatred. Is this what you want?
Keep pretending like everything is ok to live up to “standards” that are not even yours. Staying in a lie and not being able to be yourself and show your true feelings. You’re tired of it.
If you have children, they can learn this unhealthy relationship patterns and grow to practice the same because that was their “normal” growing up. What do you want them to learn? To keep pretending for just appearance? Or to be true to themselves and fight for what they want and deserve?
The stress of your relationship affects your job already because the uncertainty doesn’t let you concentrate. You’re not operating at your best, and you know it. You are starting to secretly resent those friends around you that seem so happy and in love with their partners.
It’s time to get rid of what isn’t working.
Couples therapy can help you and your partner express your concerns and learn how to communicate with each other.
During sessions, you and your partner will be guided through exercises that allow you to freely express what you are feeling without sounding like you’re attacking each other.
Sometimes we get caught up pointing the finger because it’s easier than to own up that we are scared to lose our partner.
When I work with couples…
… I encourage my clients to look and talk to each other. You won’t necessarily be talking to me all the time; instead, you’ll hear my guidance while talking to your partner. This is what it’s all about. Of course, I’ll jump in! And give feedback when necessary; however, my goal is helping you both connect and start listening to each other.
You both can learn to effectively resolve conflicts and increase intimacy to feel closer than ever. By engaging in different exercises, you will learn to have a deeper connection as you’ll learn how to “co-regulate” your emotions. You will also learn how to sustain your and your partner’s feelings as you’ll have a better understanding of what is going on.
This is not a courtroom where you can expect to find the “guilty” person but a place to learn to understand your partner and feel understood.
You can have the relationship you want.
Don’t let things keep getting worse and worse. Remind yourself that you both deserve to be happy. If there is still love, there is still hope.
Call today for a FREE 30-minute consultation: (786) 520-5122.